Michael and Jaspenelle

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2:41 pm

Review: Summer Infant Extra Tall Walk-Thru Gate

baby gate
So I wrote this review once already, Wordpress ate it, but I am stubborn so here it is again.

Until now we have used 2 24″ pressure mounted baby gates (the standard inexpensive ones) on either end of our hallway to keep Damian off the basement steps. Not only are they very steep but they are also open with only one railing (which is out of Damian’s reach.) However Damian is tall for his age and a climber so the low gates are no longer a valid safety option.

Cue the Summer Infant - Sure & Secure Extra Tall Walk-Thru Gate, which we purchased for about $60 at K-Mart. It is a 3 foot tall metal pressure gate that comes with mounting hardware. It is important to mount gates at the top of stairs as pressure gates can slide against walls, creating a big safety issue. The Summer Infant gate has a child-locked walk-thru door too so that you don’t have to be an Olympian gymnast to get down the stairs. Since this gate is both a pressure and mounted one is has a very short bar across the bottom that you have to step over, but that hasn’t been an issue for me. Just use a bit of caution.

This gate should fit any opening between 28″ and 47.5″ and has two extension panels which allow for this. However if you door frame falls between a 1/2″ measurement between each extension piece (32.5″ to 33″, 37.5″ to 38″, and 42.5″ to 43″) it won’t fit without a little modification. In other words it will become an enormous pain to install. Our home is old and the basement door frame is slightly crooked. The bottom of the door falls between 32.5″ and 33″ and therefor just barely too small to fit an extension piece. We fixed this by using an narrow inch thick strip of wood along one side of the door frame, we then used 2″ screws (rather then the 1″ screws included with the mounting hardware) to mount that side of the gate (see right photo above.) Still, if your opening falls in those ranges and you do not have a garage full of miscellaneous wood or the handyman skills, do not buy this gate.

As for what I like about the Summer Infant gate. The gate only swings one way, so that you can install it so that it does not swing above the stairs. The child-lock is well designed but still easy for an adult to operate. The gate itself is metal and seems very sturdy and durable. I don’t see myself replacing it or having any parts failing for a long time (knock on wood!) It is also 3 feet tall which is daunting for Damian but not so overwhelming that Aos cannot jump over it. (If you have a disable, older or obese cat I can see where it’s height might have an issue for the stairs.) With a permanent gate at the top of the stairs I no longer have to constantly trip over step over the two shorter gates in the hallway too, and Damian enjoys doing the house loop now as well!

Would I recommend the gate? I added another one to the baby registry for the deck stairs so I obviously like it, but if your child is average height and not a climber, it is probably not necessary. There are cheaper shorter mounted gates out there. However if you have a toddler who is a climber and tall for his or her age, as well as a set of dangerous stairs, then I would go as far to say a tall gate is not only useful, but necessary. I think the Summer Infant - Sure & Secure Extra Tall Walk-Thru Gate fits the bill fantastically well.

8:04 pm

It’s Official!

baby feet
I had my first appointment with my midwife Linda (who helped birth Damian) and heard the baby’s heartbeat, that means it is official, I am pregnant!

I know that most of you probably already suspected or knew that. For those who visit my site, Michael enabled the counter and registry in the right hand tool bar when the home test came up positive. I didn’t want to announce till after the first appointment though, and not on Damian’s birthday. That is his big day, this Saturday!

So the details… I am about 8 weeks along, my due date is January 6th. How much do you want to bet I will go into labor on my birthday (January 9th?) Michael is hoping for December 31st though, that way we get the tax stuff that comes with a baby for 2009, hehe. In the end, we just want another healthy baby (and preferably just one, too many dreams of twins flying around for my liking.) Our little family is growing!

Damian is going to be a big brother!

10:31 am

The Man Corral

man corral

Possibly one of the greatest inventions ever, gotta keep ‘em under control donchaknow!

Kidding aside, this is a pretty cool item, definitely worth $70. Damian really wants to help mommy pack, but he just does not understand that pulling everything out of the boxes and crawling away with things is a little counterproductive to the moving effort. (We will be moving to a house in March!)

So enter the Superyard Xt Gate. I am normally not easily impressed with baby items (I feel they are overpriced and for the most part totally unnecessary) but I love this thing. It collapses and has a carrying strap so you can take it with you (to the beach, to a friends house, out in your yard etc.) It sizes down easily to 4 panels, and apparently you can buy a 2 panel extension kit for it. Damian can stand up inside and not tip it over. I can easily step over it which is a great plus (granted I have long legs.)

It is really wonderful indoors now to keep him away from the boxes while we pack… and away from the baseboard heater covers which he has learned to pull off. I think this will be fantastic in the yard. I can have him near, but don’t have to worry about him wrecking havoc while I garden or worry about him crawling off (or under) the deck. He is not in it all the time as I think exploration is important too but when I want him near but need to work on another project this is definitely an enormous help.

5:41 pm

I can stand!

Damian
Giving Mommy a heart attack everyday with how fast I learn stuff. Hehe!

9:28 am

Watching Mr. President

Damian

12:17 pm

Damian


8:30 am

Zzzzz

damian

3:43 pm

Best of Damian (so far…)

Forgive the mother who is in shock over how much her baby has grown. I went through and picked out my favorite photo from each month since Damian was born. It is overwhelming how much he has changed… (Nana can you email me your mailing address, I want to send you a photo cd with all Damian’s photos.)

I’ll put most of these behind a cut because it is photo intensive so I feel sorry for anyone who watches me over on livejournal.

Damian (more…)

9:47 am

6 Months

damian
I can’t believe my baby is 6 months old today. He is learning and growing so fast. According to my baby books Damian should:

- know how to roll over, sit up and should be getting ready to crawl.
- respond to his name.
- know how to pick up a toy with one hand and switch it over to the other hand.
- notice different people
- use his voice (gurgling, babbling, squealing)

Check on all those! Except… Damian has been doing most of them since Samhain. Like crawling, it started off an a lurch and scuffle, but very quickly became full fledged speed crawling. I cannot believe how fast he can get over to stuff he shouldn’t have. He is also pulling himself up on stuff, like the futon, boxes and my leg. Today it seems like he is trying to stand on his own, which apparently is an 8 or 9-month-old skill. He has three teeth right now too, woot!

I am not in a rush to introduce solids, I know that breastmilk still has all of what Damian needs. I have been waiting for Damian to express an active interest in food, which he has started doing recently. I was thinking about starting him some rice cereal this week, but I am thinking about doing baby led weaning. Does anyone have any experience with this method?

Anyhow, so he is 6 months old today, half a year! Oh my gosh, time really does fly doesn’t it? I’m loving it though.
damian
(Sitting in Mommy’s lap this morning.)

9:51 pm

Monday’s Musing: Motherhood

One lamp - thy mother’s love - amid the stars
Shall lift its pure flame changeless, and before
The throne of God, burn through eternity -
Holy - as it was lit and lent thee here.

~ Nathaniel Parker Willis

motherhood
Damian turned four months old today. He had a check up with Dr Kincaid this afternoon and he is healthy and perfect in every way (and teething!) This evening her crawled all the way across the bed. I’m so insanely proud. I cannot believe how fast time has gone by, four months already!

And yet… I can hardly imagine life without my Bumblebee. When I try to imagine it, my existence feels so incomplete without him. When I look at Damian (growing so fast!) soundly sleeping against my legs as I type this, I know that I would do anything for him. I know that I would give my life to protect him, I would have given my life even before he was born to protect him. I wonder if all mothers feel this way?

Some might say (and have said,) it has only been four months, how can I be so certain of the depth and berth of my love for my son? In response I can only say, how could I ever be uncertain? My love for Damian echoes in every cell, in every molecule of my being. No matter how much he can frustrate me, I always love him. I loved him before I met him.

Recently, in one of my online communities, a mother lost her three month old daughter to SIDS. I cannot even begin to fathom that kind of pain. Quite literally, my mind will not even allow my thoughts to wander in that direction, there is a white hot wall of agony barring my mind from dwelling on that horrific thought for more then a second. My heart has never ached so much at any other thought. The mother of that baby left the community, questioning if she should even be in the group anymore, as she was no longer a mother.

I wanted to cry out and wrap my arms around her, holding her as much to sooth her pain as my own. I want to cry “You will ALWAYS be a mother!” Even if she must wait till the end of her days on this Earth to hold her child again. I truly and deeply believe her baby will be waiting for her in the life after, unchanged in the face of time and in the care of angels.

Motherhood is a transformation of self that can never be reversed. Damian is a part of me. I will never again be the same person as I was before he was conceived. To be a mother is to acknowledge a love so infinite that even God stands in awe of its power. It is to be Goddess. Such a bond cannot be broken, especially not by mortal death, for as long as we draw breath, the memories of our children live on in this world. And when we draw breath no more, we will find ourselves in the Sommerlands with them running into our arms.

I wonder if all mothers feel this way?

(Photo taken by Andrea and fiddled with by me.)